Are you prepared for the cheer, the family images of happy people, the songs that might remind you of better days?
If you have lost someone this year it might be the first Holiday Season without them.
You might experience a flood of feelings or go numb and feel nothing at all.
It can help if you start to prepare yourself for the coming days counting down to Christmas.
1. Think about what you can and cannot do this year
A well meant invitation to a concert or a tree lighting might be too much for you. Even if your friends and family try to cheer you up with the things that you always loved during this time you might feel overwhelmed and fearful to fall apart in public. Take good care of yourself and gently decline invitations that are too stressful.
2. Be honest
Who do you want to have around for Christmas? Talk to your friends and family members how you want to celebrate. Who else in your circle is grieving? Could you help each other? Be open to new ideas.
3. Accept help from others
It is difficult to ask for help from others. Sometimes it is even harder to accept help, especially if you have been in charge of the holidays in other years.
4. Prepare a ritual to honour your loved one
Buy their favourite flowers. Cook that special dessert. Go for a walk in nature and light a candle at a cherished place. Share stories and memories of your loved one.
5. Which traditions do you want to keep?
Your friends and family might try to change things up in an effort to help you. Be clear and honest about your feelings and what you want to happen.
Whatever you decide to do or not to do it is your truth. There is no right or wrong way.
Take good care and don’t hesitate to reach out if you feel the need to talk. I am here for you.
Take good care,