Category: Growth

“What is it about summer that I am missing my husband even more?”

20/8/2017

Self-care is how you take your power back. Lalah Delia - HealingforGrievingHearts.com

“What is it about summer that I am missing my husband even more?”

This is a question a friend asked me the other day.
Her question didn’t surprise me.

In summer, everyone seems to be out and about and having a great time with family and friends. No one seems to worry about things. Everyone is in a good mood and happy.

If you mourn the loss of a loved one the activity around you can make you even more sad. It shows you what has been. It shows you what could have been.

It is sometimes difficult not to get overwhelmed by pain when so much is happening around you. You might even feel pressure that you should be the same happy summer person you were before.

What to do, you ask?

Create a day where you look back at all the memories of fun times with your loved one.
Where they always during the summer?
What were the places you went together?
What were the activities?

Talk to your friends about it. Is there an activity that you miss and would like to take on again with one of your friends? Let them know you need their support.

You could also create a mini retreat in your home to get away from the summer crowd. Read a book, watch your favourite movies, cry, sing in the shower, and cook your favourite food. Care for yourself.

Let me know what you think and what helps you. I love to learn from you.

Take good (self-) care,
Jacqueline

PS: Give me a call. I am here for you. ☎️
This free offer is open to former Healing for Grieving Hearts clients too.

Which tasks did you have to take on after your loved one died?

6/4/2016

Start by doing what's necessary; then do what's possible; and suddenly you are doing the impossible. - Francis of Assisi / HealingForGrievingHearts.com

When we are in a relationship we help each other out with various tasks. It is just normal to share the daily duties like financial tasks, taxes, driving, grocery shopping etc...

One of my clients told me that her husband was the one that would always drive them to appointments and outings.

When he died two years ago she was somewhat stranded in her house, living in a rural community with almost no public transit.

She was lucky that she had a friend that would go grocery shopping with her or take her to doctors appointments. But she also felt that she could not impose on her friend all the time and so stayed home a lot of times.

She just told me that she bought a second-hand car six months ago and is now mobile again. I’m sure it took lots of courage to buy the car and being in the drivers seat again. Although I had nothing to do with it, I feel so proud of her. (You know who you are and I cheer for you! smile)

There are so many smaller and bigger steps that you have to take when you lose a loved one. Which tasks did you have to take on after your loved one died?

To find a new way to step out into the world takes all your courage and strength.

I bow to you for taking that step every day.

Love and blessings,
Jacqueline

PS: I offer free Grief Relief Sessions. I will help you to find a new clarity on your unique situation, a plan for powerful next steps, and relieve of unresolved feelings. (value $300)

Take out your phone now and call me. (smile)
You can reach me at 01-902-237-5011 to make an appointment or send me an email at Jacqueline(at)HealingForGrievingHearts.com

How do you feel about receiving?

26/1/2016

Everything comes to us that belongs to us if we create the capacity to receive it. -Rabindranath Tagore - HealingforGrievingHearts.com

In my last post I told you about my pending surgery and my fear of loosing control.

In the end I just feel very humbled by the care and support I received.

Yes, I had to give up control but at the same time I received the care and expertise of doctors and nurses that knew what to do when I felt nauseated by the medications or overwhelmed by getting out of bed for the first time. (smile)

Friends and family were there for me with their healing thoughts and wonderful food. (smile)

I am still recovering and I am taking one day at a time. I focus on what is most important at each moment like relationships with friends, family and clients, and the love I feel for life itself.

I will take care of myself by balancing my activities, take even more time in nature, and by incorporating the advices I give my clients: (smile)

reach out for help
receive support
take nurturing breaks
meditate
be creative

How do you feel when you open up to receive?
Please share your thoughts with me. I will answer each email.

I will be happy to make time for you. (smile)

Blessings,
Jacqueline

What do you do if you feel like losing control?

11/1/2016

I hope your New Year has started well.

Mine is already coming to a big halt tomorrow. (smile)

I will have a minor surgery (so the doctors and nurses assure me) and will then be at home for at least three weeks recuperating.

While everything was rolling along quite nicely I realized that an unease has taken over my soul.

This is the first time in my life that I am the one in the hospital bed. I have always been on the other side. Helping others with good humour, supportive silence, advocating for their well-being if necessary, holding their hand, or giving them therapeutic touch.

This time it will be me receiving. I realize that it is much easier for me to give.

The biggest fear comes from giving up control, trusting in the medical staff and their judgment.

I feel humbled to have worked with so many people over the years that trusted me and my knowledge when they needed help.

Sure they didn't have to give up control but they said yes to a process they didn't know where exactly it would lead them and where open to be guided through various creative steps.

I will honour them by not giving into my fear. Instead taking my own advice, breathe deeply and accept all the healing thoughts that people have been sending me.

Do you have a story to tell where you had the feeling you are losing control?
What did you do to overcome your fear?
Would you like to share your strategies?

It would be great to hear what helped you to overcome fear.

From my heart to yours,
Jacqueline

PS: I will be back end of January. (smile)

Healing Happens Sometimes Unseen

19/5/2015

Be gentle to yourself. Your heart will tell you when you are ready to open up again. HealingForGrievingHearts.com

Over the last couple of weeks I have been in awe with nature.
We had so much snow and then the snow melted and revealed the growing that must have gone on for some time under all the layers of snow.

All of a sudden the garlic was showing its tips at the beginning of May and today it is more than a foot (30 cm) up.

Healing has the same quality like the layers of snow covering the growth underneath.

While we are still in the midst of our feelings and our sadness we don’t realize that our actions of acknowledging the loss and honouring the time we had together helps us to heal.

Healing instills new growth of awareness, gentleness and mindfulness.

We can recover and grow unseen.

When the time comes we shed the layers and show our blooming self again.

Healing and blessings!

Take good care,
Jacqueline

PS: Don't forget if you or a family member needs personalized grief support, please don't hesitate to tell them about my free offer that will continue in 2015:
I would like to give back and offer you and your friends my compassionate and listening heart for a free comforting 30 minute call. There are no strings attached to this call (This is not a sales pitch). It is important to me to help as many as I can.

If you feel you would like to speak to someone that understands grief and is outside of your direct relationship circle please take advantage of this offer. You will have my full compassionate attention and we will find little steps to help you breath easier and start your healing process.

If you know of someone that might be in need of a comforting talk please feel free to pass the offer on.

How to sign up for the free compassionate call? Just press reply and let me know that you are interested and I will be in touch to find a suitable time for both of us. If you know someone that needs help you can send them the contact form link on my website http://www.healingforgrievinghearts.com/contact.html

“What is it about summer that I am missing my husband even more?”

Which tasks did you have to take on after your loved one died?

How do you feel about receiving?

What do you do if you feel like losing control?

Healing Happens Sometimes Unseen

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