“What is it about summer that I am missing my husband even more?”
This is a question a friend asked me the other day.
Her question didn’t surprise me.
In summer, everyone seems to be out and about and having a great time with family and friends. No one seems to worry about things. Everyone is in a good mood and happy.
If you mourn the loss of a loved one the activity around you can make you even more sad. It shows you what has been. It shows you what could have been.
It is sometimes difficult not to get overwhelmed by pain when so much is happening around you. You might even feel pressure that you should be the same happy summer person you were before.
What to do, you ask?
Create a day where you look back at all the memories of fun times with your loved one.
Where they always during the summer?
What were the places you went together?
What were the activities?
Talk to your friends about it. Is there an activity that you miss and would like to take on again with one of your friends? Let them know you need their support.
You could also create a mini retreat in your home to get away from the summer crowd. Read a book, watch your favourite movies, cry, sing in the shower, and cook your favourite food. Care for yourself.
Let me know what you think and what helps you. I love to learn from you.
Take good (self-) care,