When I work with clients various feelings come up for them and they are never the same for any one.
One of the feelings that might stop you in your tracks is resentment towards your loved one that has died.
All of a sudden you are left behind with all the tasks and chores that you shared. It is now up to you to look after everything.
The following tasks might lie heavy on your heart and overwhelm you even if you have done it before:
- parenting your children
- looking after an elderly parent
- paying bills and preparing taxes
- looking after your home
- make decisions alone
Every time you feel the resentment towards these chores you might also feel a stab of guilt. Guilt that you cannot let it be, that you are weak, that you obviously don't love your loved one as much as you thought.
Resentment will block your energy which you need to deal with the difficult situation that has come your way.
How to overcome this feeling of resentment and guilt?
One step is to acknowledge it as a normal reaction to a very difficult situation, a situation you had no control over.
Now it is time to get help from family members, friends, financial advisors (there are free consultations available), legal advice etc.
You don't have to make every decision yourself. Getting help will support you on your new path.
I wish you that you will find the help you need.
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