Special days in your calendar can trigger your pain of loss and grief.
If you and your loved one celebrated Valentine’s Day then you know what I am talking about. It isn’t easy to see all the decorations in the stores and the flyers advertising wonderful nights out.
It is difficult to ignore the beautiful red hearts everywhere.
- What do you do when the feelings of deep sadness overwhelm you?
- To whom do you turn for comfort and support?
- Who do you ask for help to get through another special day of fond memories and stories?
- Who will help you cherish the memories of your loved one?
Yes, it is always a good idea to ask for help from your friends and family. You don’t have to pretend that everything is OK. Reach out to others to get the hug you need or a listening ear to share your stories and memories.
If you feel you don’t want to reach out to others that is OK. Take a pen and paper. Share your feelings by writing them down so that what is going on inside your broken heart becomes visible.
You can ask yourself how your loved one would want to be remembered on that day.
- Is there a dish that she or he liked very much?
- Did he or she have a favourite flower?
Cook the dish or order it in, buy the flowers and decorate your dining table with them. Celebrate the love you still feel. I am sure you have even better ideas.
Healing the grieving heart starts when you become pro-active. Your soul wants to express itself. Feelings and love want to be seen. Give them a voice.
What is it that you can do on Valentine’s Day that will support your healing process?
Take good care,
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