Are you Grieving or are you Healing?

At a networking event last week a woman told me that she had looked after her mother for the last couple of years. 

Her mother had Alzheimer's. She had to say good-bye to the mother that had raised her, to the friend that had been there for her when no-one else was, to the laughter and hardships of life they had shared. The strong woman she had known disappeared before her eyes. 

Going through that process she grieved all these parts of their life together. She said good-bye to her mother in many ways over the years. 

A few months back her mother died. Her friends tell her that she is now finally able to grief the loss of her mother.  

She told me that it was not grief that she was feeling. “I’m in a state of healing after all the years of saying good-bye. Finally I’m able to heal.” 

In that instance, I could feel the love she shared with her mother and the joy of her soul that she spoke her truth. 

Wherever you are on your healing path take one step at the time to move forward. You are healing. 

What is it you need to move from overwhelming grief to a calmer state of healing?

If you feel OK to share your experience please do so in the comments. You might just help someone else. 

Take good care,
Jacqueline

PS: If the tears don't stop and you need a compassionate and listening person outside your usual circle of friends and family I'm here.