Today is my mother’s 85th Birthday.
I still remember very much the big celebration we had at her 80th Birthday. She was so happy and enjoyed the attention from her friends and family members that had traveled from far and wide to be with her.
My mother was always a very humble person and she felt very unsure during the leading up to the celebrations. After her Birthday party was over she stated that she wanted a Birthday like this every year. (smile)
We would have liked to do this for her but circumstances didn’t allow it anymore and instead she celebrated her two last Birthdays in a nursing home. My mother passed away in the summer of 2013.
Today, I am in Switzerland and I have created some wonderful rituals to be close to her and will be able to celebrate her life once more with family and friends tonight.
My mother’s wish was to have her ashes sprinkled into the Lake of Zurich what we did after her passing. Today, I will be on the lake with my Godmother and we will have my mother’s favourite yellow roses to leave behind for her. I am sure we will talk a lot about her special sense of humour and her compassion for others.
You might have a special Birthday coming up in your life as well. I encourage you to find ways to celebrate your loved one’s life and find either a quiet place to be with your thoughts and feelings or to organize a celebration with friends and family.
It is important that you take action and plan for these special days. You will feel relieve and a sense of belonging by giving yourself the gift of celebration.
Yes, you have lost your loved one but you didn’t lose the love for him or her. That love wants to be acknowledged and only you know what the right way is.
Let me know if you aren’t sure how to celebrate your loved one and I will be happy to help you find the rituals that are right for you.
Please feel free to take advantage.
Love and blessings,