Two month ago, I realized that I had overextended myself. I had taken on too many tasks, too many responsibilities, and lost all my creative time.
I find it hard to admit to myself that I am not super woman and can’t do it all (anymore).
I had to adjust.
I had a good look at my stress factors.
One was that I had booked meetings for the charity I work for part-time and client sessions on the same day. I realized that this was not working. After the meeting, I needed time to write down the outcomes and be able to work on the actions we had agreed on.
I also needed space to tune into my client session at least an hour before. I needed time to review what we had worked on, set up the room and art materials, and find a moment to relax and calm my inner busy voice.
It was an easy solution. Meetings and client sessions are not on the same days anymore. (smile)
Plus one day per week is now dedicated to creative work.
What has all this to do with grief?
When we are grieving all the ‘normal’ tasks that we have done before can become overwhelming.
Our inner self is still adjusting every day to the new situation and we forget that we need to give this adjustment our attention. We need to take it a bit slower.
If you have difficult days look at them and see if there is a stressor outside your grief that makes your day worse.
It might be little things that we don’t think of as stressors like grocery shopping, laundry, or time spent in our social media accounts.
Now, it is time to shed that super woman cape and ask a friend for help or to adjust our schedule. I am sure your friends are just waiting for a possibility to help you out.
- What are your stressors?
- What is your solution?
Let me know if I can be of any help.
Take good care
Jacqueline