Loyalty is such an important part in our lives. We find a group of people that we really feel connected to, a partner we love and loyalty follows. A way of supporting each other and to know that we have each others back no matter what. Shared adventures, hardship, and laughter bring us even closer.
But what happens to that loyalty when one of us dies?
Some of us feel obligated to show our loyalty by suffering, by keeping the pain over the loss as a measurement of our loyalty. This might get us stuck in our grieving process.
“If I take steps to feel better, if I laugh, if I enjoy a day without him/her, I am disloyal and betray everything we meant to each other.”
Is this true? Take a moment and feel into your heart - right now.
Is this really true?
If you answered with ‘no’, you are on the way of mending and healing.
If you answered with 'yes' or 'maybe' you might be stuck.
If you can, call a friend and tell them about your feelings of disloyalty and pain. Speaking about it helps to get your feelings moving again.
If you would like an outside view? You are welcome to call me.
You don’t have to suffer to stay loyal to what you have lost.
It is OK to heal.
You can heal and be loyal to the memory of friendship, love, and connection no matter what. Because you love. Because you care. Because you cherish the memories. Because you are thankful for all the time you had together.
Take good care on your healing path.
Love and blessings,
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