Would you say that you are a resilient person? That you find comfort by remembering your loved one while grieving his/her death?
It seems a bit odd to say that there might be a hidden comfort when you are in the middle of grief.
“However, resilient people seem generally to find comfort in talking about or thinking about the deceased. They can feel happy or at peace by doing so,”
writes George Bonanno in his book The Other Side of Sadness
I agree with him.
By talking and remembering your loved one, you add comfort to your difficult journey. You will experience that your relationship is not completely gone. Or even that some part of it is still alive.
Are you one of these people? Does the sharing of memories help and comfort you?
If not, try to start with little steps to activate your resilience. Talk about and share the stories of your loved one. Remember your relationship and share it with your friends or in a bereavement group.
If you feel like you cannot hold on to the positive memories, or like the memories are lost, find a friend or family member. Let them share their stories about your loved one. This will help you both. 💜
Take good care,