What does it mean to grieve? What can you do to get over it?

If you have read my emails for the last couple of months you know what my answer is. (smile)

Grief is unique and everyone grieves in their own way. There are no stages that you can follow and then you are done and you can go back to live your life as before.

When your loved one dies not only is he or she gone, all your dreams and plans for the future are gone too. 

Nothing can bring back that shared dream or plan because the person that was a part of it isn’t there anymore. 

Take a piece of paper now and write down what your shared dreams were. 
Seriously, do it right now. (smile)

You might feel emotional. This is normal. Grief shows us our reality. There is no denying, no talking ourselves out of our situation. 

Grief shakes us up, it shows us how deep our love for the loved one was. It also shows us how much we cared for the dreams we had built together.

You can tell yourself: “OK. Let’s just accept reality and move on.” and it might help.

I have some other ideas:

• Read out loud what you have written before and let it resonate in your heart. 
• If you like to draw or paint, capture your dreams visually. 
• Or go for a walk and find a place in nature that resonates with your shared dream. 
• Call a friend and get together with her or him and talk about the dreams. Important: Ask your friend to just listen and not comment on it and then get a hug. (smile)

Give your dreams a voice, acknowledge them and show your heart that you still care.

Please let me know if I can be of help in any way. 

Take good care,
Jacqueline