In October, I was at the beach, at one of my favourite places, in Cape Breton, Nova Scotia.
It is a stony beach with lots of beautiful rounded stones. Each stone called out to me to take it home. I was able to resist and took only one with me. (smile) The sound of the stones being moved by the gentle waves had a soothing effect.
I sat down and was just taking it all in, when I realized that there were hundreds of broken shells. The shells still looked beautiful even in their broken state.
I felt that they were a good metaphor for our broken hearts after a loss.
When we lose someone we feel the missing pieces in our heart. Some lost pieces are bigger than others. Some pieces are memories, wishes and plans that we cherished with our loved one. Some are the physical closeness, the kisses, the hugs, and the laughter. Each piece has left a hole. It is unthinkable that we will be able to mend - ever.
Lots of these shells still had the shape, the structure of the shell. There was a wholeness and beauty about them that was astonishing.
When you lose someone so close to your heart that it shatters, you will still be there. You will have to adjust to the new situation, the new reality. But you as a person will still be there. Yes, this experience will change you. You might not feel the same anymore but don’t despair. You will grow into a new you.
Remember that you, your soul, your ability to love is still here. They are holding you together, even if it doesn’t feel like it at the peak of your grief.
It is a process to find peace inside your broken heart.
May you find the beauty that helps you heal.
Take good care,