I hope your new year has greeted you well. A new year always brings reflection about where we have been and where we want to go.
What is your biggest wish today?
After the loss of a loved one. Your world can feel upside down. You are living a new reality that has been thrown at you and sometimes you wish that....
What is that one wish you have right now? Unfortunately you cannot bring back your old life with your loved one. So what is it?
Don’t dismiss it. (smile) Just think about if for a moment. Feel into your heart and listen. Perhaps it is a good idea to close your eyes to hear your inner wish better.
Now, write that wish on a piece of paper or in your journal if you have one.
Is it a wish that you feel is achievable or is it a wish that is so out there that it will take years to fulfill it?
Either way. Take that wish seriously.
Write it down.
Tomorrow look at that wish again and see if your wish has changed over night.
Does it need adjustment? If so write that change next to your wish.
Try to look at your wish every day for the next one to three weeks. If you would like you can also visualize how your life will look like when your wish becomes reality.
Maybe your wish changes to something new over time. Or it stays the same.
By starting to acknowledge your wishes and your hopes your brain will start to function in a new way. It will start to think towards the fulfillment of that wish and start to plot and create possibilities to make it happen.
When we are grieving it is difficult for us to think of anything else than the pain and sorrow we feel. Sometimes it is good to give our brain something else to think about.
Yes, such a "distraction" can lead to new insights of your life and reality.
It is possible that your thoughts will go in the opposite direction and will tell you that you will never be able to achieve that wish. If that happens, send me an email. I am here to help you. I answer every email personally.
You might find the above recommendation a bit too simple. I understand, but still….(smile)
Just try it out for one week. Give it just seven days of attention and see if you feel a change in your attitude and well-being after that week.
If you like to share your experience; I am here for you.
PSS: Give me a call. I am here for you. ☎️ This is a free offer and no sales pitch.
Jacqueline Steudler is an Art Therapy Expert and Grief Recovery Specialist®. Her program Healing For Grieving Hearts enables women to move from overwhelming grief to a new sense of purpose. The program includes mindful action steps and therapeutic art interventions. Jacqueline facilitates the program in person or by Skype. http://www.healingforgrievinghearts.com