Last week a former Canadian politician died in an airplane accident with three other people. My heart goes out for their families. I cannot imagine what they are going through.
This incident flooded me with memories and deep grief about my nephew’s death. He died eight years ago in a Cessna accident as well.
Often I am asked: When will my grief be over? When will I recover from all this sadness?
There is no right answer to it. Sadness and grief can flood our feelings all of a sudden when there is a trigger, like the one with the airplane crash.
Eight years ago, the feelings were overwhelming and the crying didn’t want to stop.
This week it was a reminder how much I miss and love him and how much I still grief his death. But there is a difference between then and today. The feelings of sorrow are more gentle and not overwhelming anymore.
When will my grief be over? When will I recover from all this sadness?
Perhaps the most honest answer is: It will never be over.
Your feelings of overwhelming sadness will change towards a gentler form. You will change. You will be a new you having witnessed and felt the death of a loved one.
This loss will make you more empathetic, more loving, and more carrying if you chose to go that path.
It might be difficult right now but I trust in your resilience and inner healing power.
Take good care,